Daughters

Daughters

When did it start to happen?

Was it as soon as you were born?

Or was it even earlier

As you floated in the amniotic fluid?

Or even at the moment of conception

In a complex interplay

Of genes and chromosomes

That the differences began?

The females of my species

Developed along a very different path

From the ways that I had known

And had their own concerns

That yearned for pink in everything

(When I know full well

That such a colour

Never crossed our minds)

And took to wanting dollies

And kittens and puppies

From a very early age

And then grew up all too quickly

Soon giggling in barricaded bedrooms

Confused by active hormones

Pre-occupied with latest hairstyles

And clothing in the fashion magazines

Or brands of make-up and shampoo

And the sensitive removal of body hair

Or the base behaviour

Of the latest boyfriends

And who fancied who at school

Then the greater changes

Of maturing mind and body

Ripening into an all-at-once adulthood

With its sudden sensibilities

Of the female and the feminine

And the ferocious gender-bonding

Among the sisterhood

And a new respect

For a mother long-ignored

And who had little time for men

The masculine, muscled males

With their loudness and crudeness

Their football and sporting obsessions

And testosterone-driven lives

When did you girls grow into women?

Was it something subtle that I missed?

How did you grow so far apart from me

And became so very different?

And how many years has it taken now

For us to hardly know each other once again?

Copyright Andy Fawthrop 2015